People Over Perfection

Connection doesn’t need a coordinated campaign

Straight to the Point

Here’s how it usually begins: A few people gathered in a living room who share the feeling that something needs to change.

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It’s a Mess

When you think about hosting people, your first thought might be: My house is a mess!
Well, the whole country is a mess!

Right now, people are craving real, honest connection. When others see that your home looks like theirs—that your life looks like theirs—they let their guard down. That’s when real conversations happen. Let’s open our doors and invite people in by hosting a gathering.

Plan with Purpose

Knowing your why helps shape your how. Consider this: Why do you want to bring people together? Perhaps…

• You’re fired up about a local issue and want to brainstorm action.

• You’re building a network by introducing people from your various circles who care about the same issues.

• You simply need conversation that goes beyond small talk.

Host Starter Pack

Keep your gathering simple and intentional:

• Build a guest list—Your why will inform who you want in the room.

• Pick a spot—Your home, a coffee shop, a park — whatever feels right.

• Choose a date and time—Make it easy for your guests to say yes.

• Spread the word—Remember to include your purpose. Text, email, or call guests with a straightforward message. If the occasion calls for it, encourage them to bring a friend.

• Send a reminder—Life’s busy, so a little nudge goes a long way.

RSVP: If you receive an invitation, accept it. Show up even if it means using your Free Pass!

A Second Date

Before the get-together wraps up, pick a time to gather again. That’s how community sticks—not from one big meeting, but from small, consistent connections.

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Trading Notes

The Clayton Democratic Township Club has started a bi-monthly coffee date — The Coffee Caucus. No RSVP required. Those who can attend during the two-hour window, drop-in to talk, ask questions, share information and build community. It’s not just helping people get to know their local Democratic Club—it’s also giving community members who care about what’s happening in Missouri a friendly place to meet people and work together on new ideas.

A Memo readers recently shared that a Facebook post two years ago asking if anyone wanted to play cards has led to 6 people getting together once a month. They have a potluck dinner, play cards and are grateful for the time they spend together. A mutual interest (no politics required!) can create bonds that bring us together when times are tough.

It doesn’t have to be big, it doesn’t need to be formal. And the connections to our community can be extraordinary.

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Take Heart

You don’t need a spotless house or a perfect plan to start something meaningful. What matters is that you start.

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Have you hosted this type of get-together before? Tell us about it!

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